Music , colors, food and excitement all are a part of enjoyment with home and family whether one wishes to agree or not . But the challenge is in enjoying life to its fullest even when you are single because you’ve prematurely lost your partner and have yet managed to nurture your children to be good human beings and have allowed them to happily grow their wings and fly out of the nest to destinations of their choice with no iota of selfish insecurities .
This is exactly the situation where when one sits and feels content if and only if the attitude is of acceptance .
Its very easy to comment about the other persons boots beings lighter but as the saying goes , its only the owner who knows where the shoe pinches .
Yes for a lady looking up at life with positivity always out to harvest every occasion for celebration there is left no stone unturned to feel contended and happy with what ever is offered on the platter called luck .
Its wonderful to live such a life on a day to day going because it gradually makes you so used to the space you have that even watching a movie or holidaying needs no reason to look for companions . But if one has to confess honestly atleast for me the situation where I still skid a little is somehow the days of significance like birthdays , anniversaries, festivals etc . I know I am not the party loving soul and infact enjoy my” Me Me “space a lot but when such days come by I wish there was a companion to share be it children or spouse but I know if wishes were horses even beggars would fly .
But the bottom line of such a special life is solitude actually becomes a part of our core personality and finally when there is too much of interference s we perceive a sense of being claustrophobic . But I would be dishonest if I do not admit that the sense of being lost in the moment with friends around truely appeals to people like us as I think for everyone else .
Life is actually so beautiful if we can sequence our perspectives and channelize our priorities that no situation can actually make one feel deserted , unhappy or insecure .
The most important domain that needs a control of the bandwidth is ” Expectation” . Its human to expect but its maturity to know where to draw a line to it . Experiences of interaction with each individual being actually helps us to circumscribe our limit of expectations from that source . But the unabated feeling of belonging that we spontaneously develop with some people be it family or friends can at times be a nidus for a transient feeling of being shattered and low . This usually has a quick recovery if you move away from the source .
But all said and done its been an untiring effort to feel secured and confident at times of physical illnesses for its then and unfailingly at that helpless moment that we all wish to feel a warm hand over our forehead and say ” Yes I stand by you , feel safe ”
Solitude is a blissful attitude with confidence as the cornerstone.
DR MADHUMITA PRIYADARSHINI DAS
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This is very well written. Great job Madhumita!