Month: February 2026

Some questions about human behaviour are forever unanswered. We ponder, perceive and find no answers but sometimes later on we ourselves gel into such situations with no queries. Humans understand all what’s right and what’s wrong. We know what to do in every setting but we choose what’s convenient. The person who chooses to abide by rules is sometimes identified as weird or half witted.

We all wish to keep life sailing. The question here is, should this be ever at the cost of divesting others ? At times, self love bind folds us with irrationality that we forget virtues like gratitude and commitment. When a person moves to avail dreams and expectations in life they simply eliminate all contenders sometimes irrespective of all ethics and scruples. The unanswered question is why so predatory ?.

Each of us wish to live a comfortable life. We invest and maintain the needed amenities within the jurisdiction of our homes. The question here is when the maintenance of utilities meant for public convenience is concerned some people are just nonchalant. Here again the unanswered question is, why such lack of mutual interest ?

We all know rules and regulations for every sphere of existence. We are aware of what’s right and what’s not. We never hesitate to point a finger at any one when codes or directives are violated. But the subconscious trust is adherence to law is not my responsibility when my comfort zone is trespassed. The question here is, why do we conveniently infringe regulations for ourselves ?.

We expect help and trust from every other comrade of life for our living. When it’s our own turn to get back, we tend to prioritise our ease and often cool our heels and stay in place. The question again is, why do some people consider themselves as extraordinary when it’s their turn to grant favours ?.

Man is made of flesh and blood and emotions that govern our expectations. Each of us understand every bit of this. When the question of empathy comes in some people facade themselves, why ?

These questions about life and living can go on. The paradox is these questions forever remain unanswered how much ever we ruminate.

There’s a saying “Power corrupts” !!! . This is not universal. If someone climbs the ladder to success by fair ways and means through the grill of skill and rules they always know to fit into that chair. Problems arise when someone bypasses rules managing favours and hidden strings . People who rise that way cannot comprehend their responsibilities and limitations. Such person’s often feel disrespected in their position of illegitimate seat of command. When people are in such existential crisis they often grip into office by exerting their air of power.

The very fact that a person feels the need to be rude and pompous with power to make their position felt proves their ineptitude and redundance. Such people, usually have frequent swings of favouritism and loud behavioural misconduct in public. One’s behaviour in office is a reflection of his inner self and the nurturing that’s behind the making of every person. Those who come from elite and educated families can never rebuke colleagues at work. The fact that some individuals can take power of position to arrogance and belittle or mock co workers itself is a testimony to their meagreness.

At work we are all defined by allocation of responsibilities. Our hierarchy of position is within the jurisdiction of office. The rules that govern us are grossly the same. We are bound by understanding and mutual respect. The fact that, an associate at work is courteous does not mean weakness. Courtesy is the language of the creme de la creme. This top tier pick of the litter cannot be traded with power or position. To have that aura of inherent aristocracy one needs to be nurtured in a background of such values.

Money cannot buy class. Neither can position define a person. The real test of a gentleman is in their behaviour with strangers (John / Jane doe ). Such people groom themselves to be polite unless instigated with lawlessness. These are the individuals who are approachable, helpful and empathetic. They know to bluster with ego and arrogance when the situation demands. These people are not weak they are marchese. They carry an aura of politeness and respect every person they interact with. This class of humans come from nurturing of values over time and the nature they carry down generations of erudite families.

Power is a armament for the accomplished competent individual who knows to fit into the boots they wear legitimately.

Human’s forever are on the look out. When we are young we crave to be older. As students we aspire for the career ahead. Once in a relationship we dream of marriage. The married paradoxically often never make sacrifices to keep the promises made.

Work unfolds an never ending horizon of intent, deligence, determination and a gratification to persue forever. This way the treads of aspiration keep moving to weave in tandem a weird harmony of the paradox of life.

When children are young parents often crib about the responsibilities and not being available for their own passions. The contradiction is when they grow up and fly out of the nest we start grieving about the emptiness.

Not just with ourselves, we consider our lives as incomplete until we’ve seen our next generation grow and sustain. As humans we are never ever done and happy to call it an achievement or a blessing at any stage of life that we are in. The coolest enigma is “On retrospect the past is always the best”.

Have you noticed the rising numbers of geriatric melancholia and dejection. When we are younger and always occupied with the drudgery of profession we crave for a sabbath. With superannuation people sink into lonliness and forlorn despair. The paradox is work is painful but rest is paradoxically awful.

When we are living at the present moment unless we wittingly remind ourselves, we often drift into reflections of the past or ambiguity about the future. It takes a whole life time to learn to enjoy and cherish the moment with gratitude. Thankfulness as tribute to every little blessing life offers is a virtue to be learnt.

Whenever a single disaster strikes we brood and believe that ‘I am the most unlucky’. Till that day, did we ever accept that we’ve been lucky all along. There are two major highlights about crisis in life. Up until we face a problem we tend to believe subconsciously that ‘all this can never happen to me, be it illness, emotional or financial breaks” .The day we encounter catastrophe the paradox of trust divulges to make us say with conviction that “nobody is as unfortunate as me”

The reality about life is we human’s have paradoxical reactions and perceptions about life and living. It is prudent to live in the moment, savour the situation and cultivate thankfulness. There isn’t any human who’s walked this planet without obstacles. Every person on earth is facing their own battles. The virtue to harvest peace at any point in life is a consciously nurtured skill.

To relate happiness to money, social status and other gains is the most unrealistic balance of paradoxes. However we are not metahumans nor ascetics . We all need the stability of existence to feel tranquil . We need to willingly perceive that each of our battles may not be the same but we bear similar weightage for existence and so we need to be empathetic towards one another.

The need for losses to appreciate the happiness of gains is a great paradox of life. It’s often conspicuous that the most thankful and peaceful souls are the ones who have had terrible existence in reality.

When it comes to abiding ethics / rules in life all of us know every bit of it. The paradox is implementation of rules is always an expectation on others and with self we confidently blindfold ourselves with genuine reasons.This makes us often unhappy with what others are doing. Some people are always miserable with a set of friends and colleagues for unmet expectations. This class of people paradoxically least introspect on what they themselves have met up with.

We buy goodies ( outfits and accessories ) of living for that very special day of our lives, the paradox is we never realise when that day passes by . One fine day we count that the beautiful cookery and doilies never made it to the table in years waiting for the right day. Similar it is with our exquisite outfits.We buy them with pleasure and paradoxically linger for eternity looking for the opportune occasion till we realise it fits us no longer or at times has gone outmoded and obsolete. The paradoxes of life just go on.

But all said and done, the wrap up message that six decades of living has taught me is , Today is the best day of my life !!! lets believe this with affirmation. We have woken up to a new day, we are healthy, there’s a family to cater to and also lean back on and this is the greatest blessing I have from the universe. Feeling blessed is a rectitude of the witan.

Dr Madhumita Priyadarshini Das