Living Alone verses Loneliness

These days with families being small and people being generally independent and perhaps less malleable, living alone is commoner. Gone are the days of joint families with half a dozen siblings. Back in the day, there would always be an aunt, cousin or a parent or sibling who would hold on whenever circumstances made a person live alone.

But now you will often find people of diverse age groups preferring to live alone. Some have pets and many others have a household help for company. Honestly living alone is a huge freedom if one wishes to enjoy.

The major prerequisites to live alone are .

• Enjoying solitude
• Independent by nature .
• Confident to face daily life alone.
• Health being congenial
• Financial independence to the level possible.

People who have these characteristics ingrained in their nature always enjoy their own company the most.The hurly burly scenes of crowds together enjoying is not always a delectation.They start feeling the highest gaiety in solitude or with a selected number of friends.

These people are usually not always very social because they have other sequences in their priorities.However they definitely have a basket full of countable trusted friends. Such personalities are happy reading a book, listening to music or travelling alone instead of hanging around with buddies.They trust that in a crisis there are people who hold their hands to help sail along.

Staying by oneself with selected interactions is definitely not being lonely but just augustly eclectic .

Life is actually what you groom yourself to be.Some people find it harsh and distressing to enjoy a meal alone or go to the theatre by themselves. Whereas these people love the wilderness of travelling in seclusion.This bliss of perception is savoir faire. As one learns to love oneself, with time unpremeditatedly they nurture hikikomori to some extend.

But the thin line between being happy alone and also enjoying companionship to being a complete recluse is thin and rather important to discern.

The sequitur to this is ” rich is a person who does not need the approval of another to be happy.”

Our thoughts and lifestyle are usually a product of the situation we evolve out of and that is life.

But all said and done happiest is the person who expects everything out of self. If you are yourself the bearer of all your expectations you will learn to draw the line of contentment.

Man is a social being, help is crucial, solitude is bliss but in the hour of crisis the treasure of trusted companionship is indispensable.

by

Dr Madhumita Priyadarshini Das