The sequence of childhood, student life, being independent and making a nest is the commonest route of a normal being. The flow is often not harmonious and is neither the same for everyone.
However the years of living through almost 6 decades of life has taught me that we evolve with this flow to be the person we become.
Early soul is much determined by nurturing. parental care and environmental exposure that creates an immutable imprint in the evolving canvas of life.
We are aware that overprotected children are often misfits in the real race of living. Similarly those kids who graze in life unadvised and often unsupervised are moulded either by comrades or the machine. The machine here is obviously the smart phone or computer.
With technology frequently overtaking humans as source of inputs it’s yet to unfold if we are building a frankenstine who will overpower us.
But the bottom line to childhood evolution I believe determines how robust a person one moulds up to be. We need to see every child is resilient, honest, perseverant and obviously smart to handle the common hurdles of life.
Having been equipped with these minimum armours each young adult stepping out of home takes that spring board dive into the turbulence of life. There begins the next phase of evolution.
Early in this phase our living is pretty much an impact of home and parenting. But as the external world starts to cast its effects the challenge of flowing or brooding is the next step of evolution. Some people achieve but are always counting all the hurdles they face. Yet another section of achievers are always ready to blend in and not complain. The smartest ones pursue their passions to unparalleled levels of achievements.
The impact of this level of evolution is how pleasant a person becomes. That cool steady enviable achiever has obviously created that aura with high levels of resilience.
The process of this evolution obviously continues. In late midlife, some get busy consolidating on what they have and yet others pursue for improvement. This balance is often interrupted by loss and disasters as well as happiness and peace.
The way one reacts to untoward happenings is crucial. It equips us to choose to flow or to go slow in the following days.
No person in this world has ever had only an upward curve in life.The dips and breaks in the curve of life usually makes us brave and strong if we allow it to be.
But finally I have noticed many people reach a stage of serene calmness. Once we learn to gauge our expectations we can control our reaction to every event in life.
Happy is the person who knows his position in every other acquaintances life.
Immediate family is of course the highest priority. But once the children grow to a stage when they have built their own nests, it’s important to leave that space. Emotional bonding continues to grow with time. But the art of balancing emotions and physical expectations is crucial.
However an additional baggage that feels heavy at this stage is insecurity of the limitations of age and health.
It’s perhaps something which we cannot off load till death. But if we can hold hands with like minded friends perhaps the flow gets going.
Life will move on till destined. Whether we choose to lament or rejoice is how we have evolved with the landmark events of our lives.
Some things are also easier said than done.
But trying to be resilient and peaceful is a journey we can embark on with an effort to sail happily.
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