Month: March 2024

Life takes us through childhood, adolesence, youth, parenthood, job, excellence and what not. However in my life I must admit that the greatest feeling of happiness has come with my little package of love, Alana my grand daughter.

First of all she’s the daughter I always wanted and then to my perception she is the cutest baby in this universe . She’s brought me that feeling of pure joy and bliss that I have been unknowingly groping for in the last over two decades of life.

I have seen and heard about how grandparents bond with their grand children but when my turn came to occupy this seat I swear there is no greater happiness.

The thought of her living across the oceans in a far off land just pours in my endorphins and drenches me with pure happiness. Those early morning video conversations packed with smiles and monosyllabic sounds gives me the energy to carry on for the whole day. She has unknowingly given me all the love that I had lost long ago.

As children grow up the cuddly bundle of joy is no more there to hug and kiss. However we get used to the changing scenario of life and also get engrossed in the myriads of priorities that hold our energy to keep going. It’s only when you are least expecting to once again live with your arms full of contentment and pleasure does the almighty bless you with a grand child.

With her my prayers are richer and life has become more meaningful than ever before. I have suddenly realised that there are more reasons than I thought to carry on.

This bliss of being a grandma is no way comparable to any other laurels that life ever brought me.

I pray that all my children and grand children stay safe, loved, happy and good to this universe.

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Madhumita Priyadarshini Das

As we move in life it’s important to develop our emotional skills and sentimental resilience.

Some people are staunch believers that everything bad in this world happens to others and not me. This denial of accepting reality is often the main reason why we suffer whenever unexpected events strike. The ability to withstand a storm comes from one’s experience of having ever seen a hurricane in life. People who live on the sea shore are never scared of the tides and those who dwell on the snow capped mountains or the poles know how to survive through the harsh winters. But if these two persons had to interchange neither of them would sail out smiling. It’s always one’s ability to slides through sequence of adjustments that nurtures our competence to move on in life. Now this skill does not drop down from heaven as a blessing nor from the comforts and riches of wealthy homes. This ability is learnt from our exposure to real life situations that are grounding. Infact the delicately protected person who has always been hand held in life never knows to balance unseen or unheard realities.

These people are so protected throughout life that they sadly never had the opportunity of facing hurdles alone and as such could never learn the art of adjusting their sail in a tornado.

Another subset who unfortunately never got to face the world outside their restricted comfort zones are socially challenged. Many such people are academically brilliant. They can answer to the most difficult knowledge charged questions but are challenged in the skill to gel into a society of diverse individuals.

Blessed are the people who have been nurtured close to day to day realities of life. They know the topography of the land of their living with all its social, cultural, financial and ethical norms. This is never learnt from a glass palace. The person who has walked on the streets of life alone and unaided would know how to manoeuvre their way through without loosing ground while they sail.

It’s the misfit or labile person who lands up always cursing their situation. An emotionally healthy person can appreciate the reason and limitations of every other person who is good intentioned. They can also identify the swindler or the trickster.

However it’s crucial to understand that age, professional acuity, knowledge nothing can nurture emotional quotient. An individual’s real life journey and their will to appreciate the flow of life with all its ups and downs can perhaps make a person emotionally stable.

A person who is emotionally resilient is never remorseful of day to day realities.For them handling the usual events of life can neither make them fuming with anger nor trembling in fear.

Perhaps if we can live a life which comes within our bandwidth of abilities can we nurture emotional resilience.

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Madhumita Priyadarshini Das