In pursuit

Humans as we are, we are always waiting for alignment of expectations to be peaceful. If we reflect back we will certainly absorb that every deadline of hopes which would make us happy ushers in a new pursuit. This never-ending journey of tasks, expectations, realisations and newer pursuits is actually the drive of existence. Infact, that’s what healthy normal living is. If we do not wish to achieve things in life we will have no zeal to move on. It is this flame in us which has moved mankind along all achievements of science, technology, literature and life.

With all these achievements of mankind, has also rolled in problems of anxiety, depression, panic and emotional wreckage. Everyone will perhaps have different interpretations of this situation. With whatever life has unfurled in the form of real time events and learning from texts it makes one feel like the ability to draw a limit to the attachment of pursuits and hence contentment is crucial to peace.

We have to pursue goals to move on and attain fulfilment in life. The ability to decipher the point at which one should feel done is a real life skill. It’s only those who can time this detachment from the ever ongoing journey of achieving dreams, can they soak into peace.

Peace is always within us. To feel peaceful we have to concentrate on every emotion that ignites the string of worries in us. The ability to tell oneself that beyond this point I cannot control this situation, is an expertise. Living life is the greatest teacher, managing problems are the best tests, after that all the wreckage or the victories to continue to remain grounded and sail unperturbed is real peace.

We get morbidly attached to people and situations neither of which is constant. Our forefathers leave us once their journey is over, we should learn to not brood. Our siblings raise their own families. Beyond that our morbid attachment with our children makes us insecure and troubled. We should accept that children as they grow need their own space. If we want our children to hold on to us forever, we not only ruin our own peace but also their evolution and tranquility.

Life is actually a sequence of changes. Nothing is constant. Our priorities, our beliefs, prospects, contentment and fortune everything is very interim. With everything fleeting around us we still seek refuge in every attachment. We prove to be fugitive to situations in life and that drives us away from that soulful peace we all seek.

Living in a society, raising a family, working through limitations if we seek to feel peaceful without being a troglodyte or a solitudinarian we should master the art of timely detachment. There needs to be faith in self. Man is bound to depend on each other for survival and that’s perfectly normal. However, to unnervingly clench on to situations and people causes insecurities, unholy expectations and remorse. Wise is the person who can let go in measured bits the attachments that do not heal. We should learn the right time when to loosen the crick of our grip.

Children grow, parents age, situations change. Let’s teach ourselves the ability to forget when needed and mould into every change . If we can teach ourselves to mould, remould and hold on to every change can perhaps our souls perceive peace.

Dr Madhumita Priyadarshini Das